for the
CHRISTIAN,
BLACK WOMAN
READY TO RECLAIM HER LIFE
& RENEW HER FAITH
Mark 2:22 And no one pours new wine into old wineskins. Otherwise, the wine will burst the skins, and both the wine and the wineskins will be ruined. No, they pour new wine into new wineskins.
Our Mission:
We believe that while the church's intentions are positive, it has not effectively addressed the deep-rooted issues within the Black family system. Despite a high percentage of Black men and Black women identifying as Christians, the reality is that most Black children are being raised in single parent households, predominantly by single mothers. Furthermore, Black women are more likely to attend church than Black men, yet leadership positions in many Christian churches remain largely male-dominated. This setup might be sustainable if the leadership were driving effective change.
However, with broken homes remaining a widespread issue, we must ask ourselves: Why is this problem so persistent? Why, despite widespread Christian faith, do so many families continue to struggle with these challenges?​ Our mission is to explore these questions and uncover the root causes. We recognize that genuine change begins within the individual, which is why we're starting our work by supporting Black women in their journey of spiritual healing and transformation. We believe that empowering women spiritually will have a profound impact on family stability and unity.
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Our mission is grounded in two guiding principles from scripture: Mark 2:22, which speaks to the need for new approaches to old problems, and Romans 12:2, which calls for transformation through the renewal of the mind. By embracing these principles, we aim to bring about meaningful change within the Black community, addressing the issues that traditional systems have struggled to resolve.
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Contact: mel@WeFollowTheLight.com
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In Mark 2:22, Jesus uses the metaphor of wine and wineskins to illustrate the incompatibility between the new covenant He brings and the old traditions or mindsets of the religious leaders. In the ancient world, wine was stored in animal skins that could stretch as the wine fermented. An old wineskin however, would have already stretched and become brittle. If new wine, which continues to expand, was poured into old wineskins, it would rupture, destroying both the skin and the wine.
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For individuals, including Black women, this passage calls for openness to spiritual renewal and growth. It reminds us that following Christ often means letting go of past habits, mindsets, or practices that may no longer serve a life dedicated to God.
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Embracing Christ's message often requires a willingness to be made new -
to allow God to shape and expand our hearts and minds to align with His ways.
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The "new wine" represents the life and freedom found in Christ. This life is dynamic, expanding, and capable of transforming. Like new wine, it brings a fresh vitality and purpose that must be handled with new "wineskins" - fresh perspectives, open hearts, and a willingness to accept transformation.
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You can't save anyone until you
put your oxygen mask on first
The myth of the strong Black woman is a lie that has woven itself deeply into the fabric of Black womanhood. We wear it as a badge of honor, an expectation, and a tool for survival. This lie tells us, as women, that our worth is measured by how much we can bear, how tirelessly we serve others, and how seamlessly we balance countless responsibilities without ever faltering or admitting that we're tired, hurt, or in need of help.
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We tell ourselves that our role is to carry the weight of the world, to be unshakeable pillars for an entire community- whether it's fighting for our men's rights to be honored in this unjust society, holding up friends when they are breaking in silence, or nurturing our children so that they may feel unconditionally loved in a world determined
to break their spirit, we leave no room for our own needs, feelings, and heart's desires. This belief often compels us to ignore our limits, pushing us into a perpetual cycle of
over-giving and self-sacrifice.
We come to believe that we must deny our own needs, thoughts, and desires, as though they hold less value or as though tending to them is somehow selfish or wrong. There's also a damaging misconception that self-care, self-reflection, and self-understanding are indulgent, or even prideful. The church often frames these as "selfish" ungodly acts, implying that the desire to uncover the image of God within ourselves is at odds with being a follower of Christ. Yet, without nurturing ourselves, our spirit becomes brittle, we burn out, feeling resentful, exhausted, lost, and unseen. In reality, true faith lies not in our willingness to pretend like we don't exist as individuals, nor does true strength lie in our ability to "do it all," but in our ability to recognize our limits and set boundaries, to ask for help BEFORE the pain becomes too strong to bear, to nurture our minds and spirits through the light of faith, and to recognize that we are worthy of love and care simply because we were made in the image of our creator. Self-care and self-understanding are not selfish, nor are they ungodly. They are the foundations of resilience, inner peace, and faith. They allow us to glorify God through serving others from a place of fullness and abundance rather than lack and depletion. Breaking free from the superwoman
myth means embracing the truth that we are not unbreakable-
but we are resilient, courageous, and deserving of grace.